A New York man went on Reddit to ask his fellow users if he was wrong not to foot the $200k bill for his daughter’s dream destination wedding.
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He went to the subreddit AmITheAssh*le to anonymously post about his daughter and wife giving him the silent treatment after he reportedly refused to pay for her dream destination wedding to New Zealand. “My daughter is getting married, and she wishes to have a destination wedding and told her no. My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing of wealth. Now, my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter’s dream wedding a reality?” he wrote in the post.
He also said he was going to make phone calls to see the budget for 100 to 200 people because his future son-in-law has a large family. “After I get that information I will use that to make an informed choice, but it will be an either or situation. Because they are playing this game, I will tell both of them, my wife and daughter, that it is a wedding or house,” he added.
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The post went viral, and many users said he spoiled his daughter too much for her to think that he should pay $200k for a destination wedding. He noted that he agreed to pay for the wedding but didn’t expect her to get married in New Zealand.
“NTA. Establish the amount of $$ you are willing to provide and give her the budget. Tell her anything above that is on her and her fiance. Make sure to tell her if that includes travel, etc for the bridal couple and family members.If she wants a blow out wedding, she can pay for it.”
Another user agreed that the daughter should pay for her wedding if she’s determined to get married in another country.
“This is the best idea. I did a stint as a wedding coordinator years ago and realized how ridiculous people can be about one day. And I understand it is obviously an important day, but there has to be some reality of the expense of things. Present her with an amount you will provide towards her day and let her work with that. And unless she is planning on paying expenses for all her guests flights, rooms, etc, a destination wedding is typically too much of an ask for most people. A wedding at home and a luxurious honeymoon in New Zealand makes more sense.Edited to add…NTA”
Other comments said that New Zealand is expensive regarding food, airfare, and other accommodations.
What do you think? Should the man pay for his daughter’s destination wedding or should she pay for it herself?
