Confidence is something I’ve always struggled with, especially when life throws curveballs. But recently, during a virtual fireside chat with Allyson Felix, curated by American Family Insurance | Dream Bank, I found a renewed sense of inspiration. Listening to Felix, a woman who’s overcome countless obstacles to become an Olympic legend, reminded me that confidence isn’t just about having it all figured out—it’s about embracing the messiness of the journey, pushing through setbacks, and staying true to what lights your soul on fire. Her words felt like they were meant for me, and I knew I had to share the lessons I learned. In the following, I’ll share how Allyson’s advice applies to every aspect of my life and how it might resonate with yours as well.
Confidence in Career: Embracing the Unknown
Right now, I’m at a crossroads in my career, grappling with whether to settle or take a leap of faith into the unknown. It’s been a whirlwind—from being laid off from my tech job, to struggling with job interviews, finding odd jobs around town, and chasing my media dreams. Then, I landed a job in finance, which felt stable, but I still feel uprooted and uncertain about what’s next.
Allyson Felix’s words reminded me that confidence isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about being open to change and trusting the process, even when it feels uncomfortable. She shared, “You have to embrace the uncertainty and trust the process. Confidence comes from knowing you’re doing your best and being open to where the journey takes you.” Her insight encouraged me to accept that it’s okay not to have it all figured out. Confidence comes from knowing that each step, no matter how small, is a step toward something greater.
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Confidence in Personal Growth: Rediscovering Joy
Lately, I’ve been finding solace in activities that used to make me happy as a child. I’ve started coloring again—something I used to do with my grandma using the jumbo 64-crayon box with the sharpener on the back. In the chaos of adulthood, it’s been a simple but profound way to disconnect and give myself a break from reality.
Similarly, I’ve rediscovered my love for fiction books, especially romance novels. After high school, life got real, and I transitioned to self-help and personal development books, trying to keep up with the demands of adulthood. But recently, I’ve found joy in fiction again, allowing my imagination to flow as I read for enjoyment, without any responsibility or follow-up actions required.
Allyson’s message about confidence in personal growth resonated deeply with me. She emphasized, “Confidence grows when you allow yourself to enjoy the small, meaningful moments. Sometimes, it’s the little things that remind us of who we are.” Embracing these moments has allowed me to reconnect with myself and find joy without the pressure of productivity. For me, that means giving myself permission to indulge in what makes me happy, even if it seems trivial.
U.S. track icon Allyson Felix, a new IOC Athletes’ Commission member, speaks during the 142nd IOC session at the Paris 2024 Olympic Games in Paris, France, Aug. 10, 2024. Source: Xinhua News Agency / Getty
Confidence in Relationships: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome is something I’ve struggled with for a long time. Despite accomplishing some great things at a young age, I often feel like I’m not good enough or that I don’t belong in certain spaces. As an introvert, it sometimes takes a lot for me to build the energy to be in rooms and network, but when I’m prepared, I can work a room and speak with anyone.
Allyson Felix spoke about her own battles with self-doubt, even at the height of her career.
She reminded me, “Recognize your worth and the impact you have on others. Even when it feels like you’re not shining, know that your presence and support make a difference.” Her insight helped me understand that being supportive and encouraging others is a reflection of my own strength and confidence, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. It’s about recognizing that we all have something valuable to offer and that our unique experiences shape us in powerful ways.
Allyson Felix on stage during the OMEGA panel discussion with Olympic ambassadors at The Planet OMEGA exhibition launch at the Chelsea Factory on November 10, 2023 in New York City. Source: Roy Rochlin / Getty
Confidence in Wellness: Taking Care of Myself
When it comes to wellness, I’ve always struggled with consistency. I’ve had difficulty sticking to a gym routine because I get intimidated by not knowing the right workouts or feeling inexperienced compared to others. I’ll start strong, but after a couple of weeks, I lose momentum and won’t go back for months.
Allyson Felix’s insights on confidence in wellness hit home for me. She spoke about the importance of taking care of yourself, both physically and mentally. Confidence, she said, comes from honoring your body and mind, even when it feels like an uphill battle. Her perspective gave me the motivation to embrace my fitness journey with self-compassion and persistence, rather than perfection.
I’ve recently started therapy with a new therapist who’s helping me navigate my relationships and career challenges. This has been a big step toward building confidence in my wellness journey, teaching me that taking care of myself isn’t just about hitting the gym—it’s about finding balance, setting realistic goals, and being kind to myself when I fall short.
Allyson Felix’s journey is a testament to the power of resilience and the importance of confidence in every aspect of life. Her words have inspired me to keep pushing forward, to embrace the unknown, and to find joy in the process. Confidence isn’t something that comes easy, but it’s something we can all cultivate with time, patience, and self-love.
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