African Pastor Tells Women ‘Natural Hair’ Won’t Attract A Man

by Mary Spiller

November 4, 2023

An African pastor has gotten social media riled up with her advice to young women trying to find husbands. The video, shared on Twitter/X on Oct. 30, shows the preacher explaining how to help women get noticed by being “packaged” well, condemning women who wore their natural hair as opposed to spending their money on human hair and wigs because “natural hair is not a selling market.”

The clip shows the pastor talking to an audience about attracting a man. She began by telling women to carry themselves with a friendly demeanor, to go out often, and mainly to wear wigs when they do. She posited that natural hair doesn’t attract men. 

 “The Bible says that will have friends must first show himself friendly. You’re squeezing your face, ‘nobody is calling me,’ but this is how your face is,” she said.

She continued, “Friday night, you’re at home. Monday, you’re at home, Tuesday, you’re at home. Instead of you to be smiling, be shining your teeth anywhere you are. When your friends are hanging out, say, ‘I’m coming.’ When your colleagues are going to one say, ‘Maybe that’s where my husband will be. Let me dress up and join them.’  Show yourself friendly, and then you will have friends.

“All of you will be carrying natural hair about. Who does natural hair help? OK. Better wear your wig and be doing like this…” The pastor dramatically flipped her wig in the video.

She explained, “And be flipping it. Go and spend that money on hair. Draw your brows, buy lip gloss, and look good. Natural hair is not selling market. When you marry you off your wig because you have entered, there’s nothing they can do about it. But before you enter, don’t be caught unfresh. Never. Package yourself well.”

She quickly fired off a speech about telling women to even go to their friend’s weddings dressed to the nines with “snatched” waists and Aso Ebi Nigerian outfits.